A hot morning. Heavy traffic. You know how it is. You are impatient. But you have to move in inches. Further down the road, the traffic cleared a bit. I was whizzing past when I saw a guy on the road side telling two others "Hit the brain, I think", pointing behind him and then pointing to his head. That slowed me down. This isn't a normal conversation.
A few feet from them, I saw a man being helped to sit by two others. One of them was patting the man's cheeks saying "it's nothing sir. it's nothing. Sit up". The other was holding the man by his armpits.
The man himself was bleeding from his head. I could see bloody skin peeled off from the top of his head. His hair was matted with the blood. The blood had run down his neck and his shirt was wet with it. What really bothered me were his eyes. He had a wild, bewildered look in them. He looked as if he did not believe it. As if he didn't know what's happening around him.
I passed on.
I did. I then realised to my consternation that I did not stop and offer help. I was in a two wheeler. I accused myself of not offering to take him to the hospital.
I tried to appease my conscience saying that the five guys would take ample care of him. I did not need to barge in. But conscience is a tricky friend. It still bothers me that I did not stop.
Did I do the right thing?
18 comments:
hey it happens da.. you need not worry about that,coz someone was there to help him na.. if he is alone na then you should have felt guilty..
whats the use when you are just standing and watching him .. when others are there helping him to get to hospital. ..
U cannot take him to the hospital in ur bike. U cannot help that man stand by his foot to push him into an Auto atleast to take him to the hospital..i kno u arent that strong physically. U can make up ur mind today, that if at any instance ur help of ur capability will make sense, then u ll surely offer.
ur feeling would have been meaningful if the offer for help was within ur capability... but it was def not...
n ofcourse there were people to help him..
i guess u did the right thing..
Reassuring, guys.
Grateful :-)
Conscience is a tricky friend. Its always very perfect. And laughs and makes fun of us. If you are a human being then you should have this guilty conscious.
If the person(victim) is your friend (or akka, anna, thambi, thangai) and if there are even hundreds, you will run after him/her right, til you hear that she/he is ok. You have such feeling for that hurt person too. Thats y ur conscience is still bothering you. Its a good feel.
Hoi Bala, what? physically not strong??? strenght comes from the thoughts and not from physique. She can do that! I have done that once, but the victim that time is my Athai. So Mat is in no way less than my strength, and she can do that. Change your view Bala!
But what you did is correct. You are not needed there.
i too came across similar situation.. its not like we arnt capable... we just freeze or become helpless...
@ nivi n mr/ms anonymous..
capability meant here is not her ability to react to this situation.. i.e .. dialing an ambulance, accompanying the others to the hospital, etc.. should note.. there were people who already did that..
in this context it is, its the physical aspect..
"strength comes from the thoughts and not from physique".. yes, to a certain extend.. lets tok practical... wil she be able to lift a guy whose double her weight, under a vehicle..
& she being a gal (this is gonna increase the BP ;) ) to what extent can she get involved with such incidents,?
there are limitations.. which define her capability ..
Thanks Vinod..
U answered Mr/MS Anon the perfect way.
Those comments were made thr keeping the practical situation in mind and not with any chauvinistic idea !
So im not gonna change my mind dear Mr/Ms Anon !
Guys,
The primary thing that bothered me was the pricking thought I did not even offer help.
Physical capability here is a secondary concern.
@Vinod,
Betcha that incensed me. The gender doesn't come to the fore at such situations. Man or woman, whatever help we can offer we will.
You being a guy will offer the same help to a victim - be it man or woman.
I will do the same too.
Oh BTW, it's Ms.Anon
:-)
hi vinod ,
thinking practically, we may not able to carry a guy but we atleast pull him if thats needed or try to do that .. but we can very well call for an ambulence and more thing what we can do in that situation in case if we are alone and no one is there to help
here the discussion was helping a victim and not who can help them in a great extent,,
offering a sip of water also is a help ...
(Bala meant physical strength)
Bala you need not change your view. One should have atleast some weakness. So you be as you are.
And Juv, i accepted already(i m the second anon too) that she was not needed in that situation as there were people who had done those 'Capability' factors. So i direct the first para of urs to niv alone.
For the second para, let us take a guy of twice the weight of mat's. Let mat try once. She will be able to pull him into a vechicle let us take an auto. Collora pidichavadhu kandipa izhuthu potruva. I bet you. She is not that weak. You know her height and weight na??
Even a simple device will greatly help to lift grt weights. And she can make use of things near her. Vallavanuku pullum aaydhamae(Hope this Juv knows Tamil). And her emotional waves are not that bad to get nervous under such circumstances. I hope u r her friend and you know this.
what is your weight juv? Better you increase your weight to twice that of mat's. And we can have this experiment once!!
Hey.. Semma Mokkai po :))
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Its ok Anon..(Pera sonna enna korancha Poiduva ?)
Enna Mathi..Comments overflowing for ur Blog..Happy a Nee ?
sonna oru chinna matter vechikitu...epdiyellamo build up panni...kadaisila naan edhuku feel pannen nu total a marakka vechitingale...
enna oru nanbar kootam!! romba happy naan! ;-)
per sola maaten bala, let me be a know anon to everone!
To Mat ---- :)))
idha kooda seyalam, then what for we are??
seyama
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